The gameplan of your ex sounds familiar. Or the comments after the giving? I look forward to working with you on your journey back to the land of the living! Thinking in terms of him having a disorder or disabiluty rather than being difficult on purpose is helpful as well. We must lover ourself just as much as our childeren. She made it clear that whilst there was no rush, she wanted me to put a ring on her finger with a bigger diamond then the one I had given my first wife that she wanted us to get married in Jamaica, have a house together with her kids, have a baby before she was35, set up a business together and so on. She lie so much that I don't believe anything that she says and accuses me of doing the very things that she does.
I had no idea he would react like this. When i learnt of his affair and told him to leave he continued contact with her and told me he never wants me back. But there are common threads among personality disorders, but more importantly, with the way abusive people manipulate you. I see that he runs with other narcs, and victims like me. My ex accused me of not wanting him to have any friends. ? Which I know is a facade.
I am looking forward to my new divorce… Dear Kim, You remind me of myself and my life many years ago. I also had an accountant tell me she thought he was a narcissist because she had a family member who was who was just like him. Then he told one of those facebook females that he blocked me from his page, so she could continue stimulating his intellect. You also may wish to avoid being honest with them, especially regarding what is important to you. Read, understand and research — it is the only way to recover! I grew up the only child of a narcissistic mother.
What are you talking about? I move down the road and continue to see him, but as of November found out some really upsetting personal news and was crying all the time. Narcissists also need to break patterns of being self-centered or withholding. Inside he has stayed a little scared boy. So now, I plow through life with an untrusting eye. It was a business relationship. Living with a person like that can be destructive and demoralizing.
I started reading up sociopaths and narcissist and it led me to here. Hed like to be an author of a book, but he hasnt gotten very far in the past. All he has to offer is kitchen cupboard love. Since then it was complete hell. He constantly would tell me I have no substance in my life. I have to get away!! The narcissist will fly into a rage that you could possibly think he would ever cheat on you and turn the tables so you end up apologizing for accusing them or for some other crime you committed months or years ago. To give you some examples of narcissistic gift-giving, I'll bestow some examples I've had, courtesy of my mother in law: - Gifts are transactions and given with plenty of strings attached.
He hated it if I got upset, would be aggressive rather than show empathy. September 12, 2014 Hi Jamie, It is incredibly cruel, the reel back in and then discard again. When I got upset, N said I was delusional. We got engaged when I was 16, had our oldest when I turned 17 and married at 19. If I had done the same you would have done exactly the same thing. He kept me isolated and alone always under his control. The only thing she wanted was a laptop i bought her and an iPad and to cherry pick the house of items we bought to furnish their new apartment.
Now I will send a big virtual hug to you all! They can be very charming and draw you in and make you feel very special and important to them. Sadly when I had gathered the courage to challenge is behavior he turned in to a monster and this resulted in domestic violence. Talk about pot calling the kettle It took years but finally saw it was something more than just selfishness. If you show your weakness you are only making your situation worse and a narcissistic person gets more Supply when he or she can reject you in a cold, cruel way. Raelynn December 8, 2017 Kate! Am I living with a narc? Jo says May 16, 2018 Went no contact 4 months ago after almost 11 years with my Narc. This went on for two weeks. Don I am in a 23 year relationship with a woman that craves attention from men not that she has ever cheated on me.
This is why it is so important to realise that when people cross the line into conscienceless, non-empathetic pathological behaviour — they have left their soul behind. I have contacted a lawyer I am going to get a legal seperation if he does not agree to counceling. A whole year I tried keeping my act together but in that time she I guess got other ideas and said she missed the convienence of me, not me in general. More and more she said I was dumb, stupid, made fun of me in front of her children and encouraged them to do the same. Drop me a line if you would like to share your experiences with someone who has been there too. If you have children he will turn them against you, he will even go so far as to try to get you fired, arrested on trumped-up charges, victims have even been committed to mental institutions because of the vicious actions of a narcissist.
Within two weeks of running away with my five young children with no house, no car, and no job, I found an apartment, I got a car used, but drivable , and I secured a job. I know in my very core that we could get married and then the abuse would return and escalate just as Melanie describes. Turns out, he was getting a hold of his ex and at least one other girl. Be careful to entertain a man name Jeffret Scott Paredes. I like feel alone at that time. Problem is that charm was an act, they are only ever interested in their own needs.