What am I to do here? Discrepancies in sexual desire can cause tremendous frustration. Encourage and support herer in taking this to the doctor. A variation of this theme is the man who can have sex with his wife until she gives birth to their first child. Communication is key , the longer it festers the harder on the relationship. We've slept apart for 15 of our 16 year marriage, with occasional sex. Put that energy into something useful… please. If you don't, you are missing out on one of life's greatest joys, feeling truly intimate with the person you love.
I could do with three times a year, and not really even miss those three. When we first got married our sex life was very active, its only the past year and a half that it has gone downhill Maybe what you need to do is pretend you are having an affair with him. If you have sexual desire and your needs are not being met it's torture. I really want somebody to tell me what is beautiful about either of those acts? Im the woman with a higher drive than him. In fact, sex therapists report that a sexual desire gap is the number one sexual problem brought to their offices. Do you share the same tastes and preferances when it comes to sex? Next, just set a time when you will try and initiate with your husband. Give men porn and there's uproar - usually from the self centred wives who couldn't care about sex anyway.
I am not questioning your position on this. What you need to bear in mind is that many women report dips in desire, but those who make the effort to have sex often report they find themselves responding to their partners after ten minutes of foreplay. Our staff would also be more than happy to discuss your situation with you over the phone. Orgasms are just muscle contractions, like labor. There is nothing more for me to do. Here's a list of things for you to consider that could be impacting your desire. The thing is, because of my depression issues, I think it could take a couple years before I'm a healthy and fit person, and that's if I work hard at it all the time and experience no setbacks.
Thanks again for the honest advice! First of all suggest your wife to consult a medical specialist who can discuss the problem with her and do any necessary tests. But when pressure from work got to be too much, he started to head to bed without asking for anything, which left me perplexed and lonely. Do not force your wife, it will not give any results. Why does my husband have such a low libido and so little interest in maintaining a healthy sex life? At that stage I was very unhappy at work the environment was very negative and as it goes, one does not always leave work related problems at work when you get home. His email is egogotemple yahoo.
We both work full time, we both clean, we both cook. It can also alter your hormones, sometimes permanently. In other words, although it may not be perfect, you can rearrange your lives so that you can replicate at least part of what was working for you back then. And you don't have them. I have a healthy sex drive like 2 times a week is fine but here it's been 3 years now. Surely you know that at 30 your sex life should still be vibrant and healthy.
Her libido has pretty much dropped off the face of the earth. Don't feel embarrassed about initiating sex. She's hardly a victim when she's expected to perform the bare minimum service expected of every spouse. Imbalances can also cause contraction type pains at times when unresolved. Previously he had built an apartment type thing in our basement and he was living there. Ask him to change your heart, your mind, and the image of your wife.
My question to you is what made it good then? However, no one wants to talk about it. We have sex 3 times a week, at least. Are there other things that could strain your marriage, such as money and work? He just says he is sorry! Explore and experiment until you know exactly what turns you on. I'm posting because after a lot of browsing and searching I haven't found something quite like my situation, so hope to get some input from you guys. This is a new concept to me because until very recently I felt his sexual demands were unreasonable and selfish. I often wonder how driven she was when she was younger and was married twice before me.
On a separate piece of paper write what you liked about your sexual relationship in the beginning when your sex life was good. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. It depends who you are. Thanks to you folks on this forum, I'm starting to believe that maybe I'm not the only wife out there sobbing in her pillow every night for lack of physical affection. If you push yourself a bit, you will see whether the caressing and touching puts you in the mood.