She too has issues, was raped by her father, her 2 girls have been abused by her brother, their Uncle. I packed up all my stuff and moved and a day later he asked me to move back in and said he made a mistake. We were together for 13 years, married for 2,5. I'm lucky enough to have awesome friends, though, and they're the real key even thou … gh they don't know it. Medication also comes with side effects. What if radio silence is not an option because, say, you work together? He says he is sad too but it is just not fair for me to just wait on a broken man.
Despite going downhill there would be days where she would be herself and be very caring to me, and almost normal. That he doesnt even talk the same. He is happy now and having so much fun and I am sitting here depressed going to a depressing university and just feeling like shit about myself. There were lots of other small signals of mental health but I did not realize at the time as I thought they were just part of her lifestyle — excessive shopping, untidy house, inability to make decisions, sleeping in until all hours of the day and so much more. I miss him so much and him not being there has only worsened my depression, hopelessness, and overall worthless feeling.
For example, do you enjoy reading, having a cup of tea, or taking a bath? Again, like the preschooler, she has to arrive at her own conclusions, and when she does, she will take accountability for what she can change and not blame you for any negative results. They like guys to be happy and smart and nice. This completely bowled me over as there has been zero indicator of unhappiness. I think my depression seriously affected him, which I feel so unbelievably guilty for. Definitely believe that which you said. You sound so smart and sensible, really, thank you so much for your answer! This article was co-authored by. He literally would ignore me to my face the times I came round to see him.
It sometimes works on the second option. It was all so surreal and quick. This will help improve your confidence and it will also distract you from thinking about this guy. Add a mindfulness element, especially if your depression is rooted in unresolved trauma or fed by obsessive, negative thoughts. We then had an amazing few months. My boyfriend and I have been dating since high school and on and off for about 5 years. One week ago he started texting me, that he doesn´t enjoy life anymore the way he used to and that the gulit for what he did to me is his biggest demon.
But after just some days he left again, saying that we are only friends. Am I dealing with a red flag situation here? Her ex cheated on her several times, took drugs, was an alcoholic and substance abuser. That would only make matters worse. However u must set boundaries of no cheating etc in the space period or they will use it as an excuse. Turn out she has soooo many guys crazy over her.
So ur half way through the hard bit already. Regardless of how involved you were with the guy who doesn't care about you, you have to acknowledge your feelings and address the situation. People who are depressed undergo a series of physical and emotional changes. I always knew that he struggled with depression and self-loathing, but over the past couple of years I watched him become worse and worse. Plus him telling me he had fun with me and that I made him happy. Unlike last time he refused to see me in person, and he avoided me. I had a difficult time of handling stress and depression.
We did have rocky moments. I wish I had a clue at least. I never saw all the little signs while we were together as I have never been exposed to someone with mental illness. Now that the house is empty and all my belongings are out it still seems that she is not phased on me bit that we are done. He became paranoid, started to accuse me of cheating on him. Remember, what you identify as a weakness, might be seen by other people as a strength.
I am not the horrible person that my depression turned me into. The longer you hold out hope the harder it will be to let go and move on. We have all done everything we can think of to stop them from leaving or bring them back. We had the best night. Hi Sam, I just stumbled across this page myself and saw your recent message.